Thank you for your reply I do appreciate it and it was helpful. Sadly however telling my father that something is bugging me or something that was upsetting normally constitutes a probing set of questions that never ends until he's satisfied, it's similar to being in a job interview or a hospital appointment really, which just makes it all worse. I keep trying to think of ways to tell him that what he and his wife say are tactless and lacking empathy and understanding but I just don't want the hassle any more.
I used to be, as a teenager, aloof and sarcastically standoffish or just back talk to them, you know typical teenager, however now I'm in my mid twenties I just don't care and just let the words hit me and stay clinical with it. Not really the kind of conversation you want to have with a parent but that's the only way I can deal with him most of the time. It's hard being able to talk to him after the past with him though I do cut him some slack now.
I really want to be able to tell hi how he made me feel when I was younger and even now but it seems easier to just go dead when I'm around him, not the healthiest relationship I know, but it's hard to tell someone I can't trust anything regarding my feelings.
Sorry for the rant there I think I went off topic a bit haha. Thanks again though.
Pride.
