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Offline Hullaballo

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Struggling with mine and friends' mental health
« on: March 17, 2012, 04:53:44 AM »

We were best friends but now are together. We both have mental health issues and both help eachother a lot. She finds it very difficult to talk at the moment but she writes and we still have normal conversations, just inaudible. She doesn't know the extent of the difficulties I have had and I don't particularly want her to because I want to protect her. I just want to be there for her and care for her as much as humanly possible, and I know that I do help her, but I have to pretend everything is OK when I am hearing voices or seeing scary things. Just being with her helps me really, but I am scared I'll have a panic attack in front of her or something. Not sure what to do because I just want to help her but find it difficult when I see things all the time. :oo:

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Re: Struggling with mine and friends' mental health
« Reply #1 on: March 17, 2012, 07:31:17 AM »
Hey  :hug2: you sound a very supportive partner.  :)


Do you have any professional help - either of you?  As it sounds like you could use someone to talk to yourself?  You can only really be strong for her, if you are functioning properly, and it sounds as though you are struggling with this at the moment.

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Re: Struggling with mine and friends' mental health
« Reply #2 on: March 20, 2012, 10:08:40 PM »
+1 to what Bea said. It sounds really good that you help each other so much. Just make sure you get support too, be it from her or from someone else. Perhaps you could be more open with her? Tell her whats going on but be lighthearted about it perhaps? It's better to tell her your problems than panic in front of her when she belives you never have problems
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Re: Struggling with mine and friends' mental health
« Reply #3 on: March 21, 2012, 02:00:14 AM »
Hi Hullaballo,

Firstly, she is so lucky to ahve someone so caring and supportive as you. +1 to Bea and Justine - in order to help her you must take care of yourself. You know her, so it's your judgement, but do you think perhaps telling her at least a bit may help to make your relationship more solid? Have a think, but do please look after yourself as well as her, for both of you :)

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Re: Struggling with mine and friends' mental health
« Reply #4 on: May 12, 2012, 10:06:22 PM »
Thankyou everybody, for being so supportive. Unfortunately it turns out she wanted me to stop being depressed and wanted to make me happy. I started to be better than I have been for months and now we just remain as affectionate friends. It hurts a lot but I want to continue helping her, as I know I have done, as she now communicates and talks again.