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DeeHants

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Introduction from a new member
« on: July 16, 2010, 05:01:56 PM »
Hi all.

I've just joined this forum as my partner.. practices(?) self harming and she cut herself last night with me in the house so I have decided to try and seek some help and support (for both of us).
We've been together (on and off due to her depression) for 7 months now, and I know she has self harmed in the past, but has recently started again.

When we found her, all I could do was just hold her tight (someone else cleaned up her legs) and constantly reassure her that it was nothing to be ashamed or sorry about.

On reading this site, it seems to be the right thing to do, but is there much I could have done to help beforehand?

Thankfully, she said that me being there afterwards has helped her a lot, and it's helped me to understand it a bit better.

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Re: Introduction from a new member
« Reply #1 on: July 16, 2010, 05:10:01 PM »
welcome to the site i hope it helps both of you :hug1:

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Re: Introduction from a new member
« Reply #2 on: July 16, 2010, 05:36:44 PM »
Hi, I hope the site helps you
I think it's great that you are being supportive of your partner. I think that the best thing you can do for her is to be there for her to talk to. It might also be a good idea also to encourage her to talk to a professional (if she isn't already)
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Keep it up, it sounds like you're giving her the support she needs :)
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Re: Introduction from a new member
« Reply #3 on: July 16, 2010, 06:05:50 PM »
 :1059: :1059: :welcome: its sounds like u are being a really gate partner. x x x x x x  x x

x x x x x x x  xx  x x x x x

hear to listen xx x x x
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Re: Introduction from a new member
« Reply #4 on: July 16, 2010, 06:09:12 PM »
hello  :wave:  I think it's great that you are being so supportive, it must have really reassured her last night to have you there and for you to react in the way you did. :hug2:. Hope you both manage to find some support on here. x
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Re: Introduction from a new member
« Reply #5 on: July 16, 2010, 10:26:44 PM »
Thanks everyone.
I haven't yet told her about here but it's good to know there is support out there.

She missed her initial appointment so is trying to get another referral so we'll see how it goes.

Thanks again everyone *hugs*

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Re: Introduction from a new member
« Reply #6 on: July 16, 2010, 10:30:22 PM »
 :1059: :1059: :1059: :1059:

i think ur being so supportive x xx x x x

hear to listen x x x x
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Re: Introduction from a new member
« Reply #7 on: July 16, 2010, 10:32:20 PM »
Welcome to the site, I hope you get what you want from it.
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