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NSHN Forum Support & On Topic Forums. Some additional boards are viewable to members only => Survivor Room => Topic started by: babylady on May 05, 2012, 09:14:00 PM
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I am struggling quite a lot at the moment and am spending a lot of time in the bath. I don't have ocd clean issues, it's just a place that makes me feel safe, I like the fact that my bathroom is small, no windows, so can have candles and the womb like feeling of being encased in warm water. However, it's not very transferable or convenient to live in the bath, just because I am struggling.
So I though we could share our safe places and it might give some helpful ideas to each other.
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My Nan's house is my safe place. Or my bedroom, in my bed, under the duvet.
My Nan is wonderful. I can go and sit in "my" chair and just be. She doesn't expect conversation and just lets me sit and be in company without the pressure of trying to find words. She'll have some rubbish on the TV and we'll drink tea and just be quiet. I'm lucky that I can go to my Nan's pretty much any time. I have my own key, so even if she's not there I can go round.
When things are really tough and I can't stand facing anyone, even my Nan, then it has to be under the duvet. The weight of it on top of me makes me feel secure. The door to my bedroom has to be locked though, or I feel vulnerable. A locked door and my duvet, and I'm as OK as I'll ever be.
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On the sofa, with my duvet, the light turned off and music playing softly. Henry under the duvet with me and my cuddly kangaroo,
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there is the prettiest lake with a beautiful view and amazing sunsets this is good when i can go out but on other days it is in bed with my favourite movies
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It used to be my Mam's place. It was, oddly, more compromising than any other space as it was where my sister's illness was fully manifest. Being able to help with her care and take part in constructing our knowingly absurd family narrative felt right though. At least I was involved and doing something productive.
Anyway, little one's in residential care now and there's not really anywhere I feel safe. The nightmares used to stop when I was at home. They don't anymore
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In the shower or bathroom in generally! when my anxiety kicks in its really nice to be in a small room with a lock on the door! or curled up in my bed with my laptop so i dont have to think.
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weirdly ... my best friends back garden.
i spent most of the past 15 years planting, nurturing and growing it. so it feels like mine ... i love it there and its safe for me. totally enclosed.
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My best friends sofa
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my bed room with my door locked and my music on i love it because it makes me safe :hug1:
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My bed under my duvet, with music on. Or snuggled up with my best friend.
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oh thats what i love :sofa:
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in my bed under my duvet. It feels like the world is less scary there
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im with u on that emmz it rainy today :sofa:
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Good idea for a thread :)
My safe places are: in my wardrobe (its fitted floor to ceiling wardrobe with a plug socket in and everything so I can take a big pillow in, a lamp and curl up in there quite happily), behind a tree in local park or swings.... especially ones in the middle of nowhere (like where I go isn't a park, it is just a random swing in the middle of a field).... I find soemthing very relaxing about swinging...
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ya my safe place in school is the bathroom